talking about your mental health
opening up about your mental health can be challenging, but it is an important step towards healing and receiving the support you need
Talking about your mental health involves sharing your thoughts, feelings, and experiences with others. Although it may feel difficult or uncomfortable at first, talking about your mental health can reduce feelings of isolation and help you connect with others who may have similar experiences.
Whether you are dealing with anxiety, depression, stress or any other mental health issue, discussing it with someone you trust can be incredibly beneficial. It allows you to express what you are going through, gain different perspectives, and find support.
In Scotland, mental health is becoming a more open topic of discussion, but many people still find it hard to talk about. Cultural factors like living in a rural area, personal beliefs and fear of judgement can all contribute to this difficulty. However, speaking up about your mental health is crucial for breaking the stigma and encouraging others to do the same.
Common myths
talking about your mental health is a sign of weakness
Opening up about your mental health takes courage and strength. It is a positive step towards getting the help and support you need.
people won’t understand or will judge you
Many people have experienced mental health challenges themselves and can be understanding and supportive. While not everyone may fully understand, sharing your experience can help reduce stigma and foster empathy.
if you start talking about it, you won’t be able to stop
Talking about your mental health can be a controlled process. You can choose what to share and when, and you can stop the conversation at any time if it becomes too overwhelming.
Why talking about mental health matters?
Discussing your mental health is important for several reasons:
Reduces isolation
Sharing your experiences with someone you trust can help you feel less alone. It reminds you that others care about your wellbeing and that you are not facing your challenges by yourself.
Builds support networks
Opening up can help you build a network of support. This can include friends, family or professionals who can offer advice, companionship and practical help when needed.
Encourage others
By talking about your mental health, you may encourage others to do the same. This can contribute to a more open and supportive environment for everyone.
Promotes early intervention
Discussing your mental health can lead to early intervention and treatment. The sooner you seek help, the better your chances of managing and overcoming mental health issues.
How do you start the conversation about your mental health?
Starting a conversation about your mental health can be daunting, but here are some tips to make it easier:
Pick the right time and place: Choose a time when you won’t be interrupted, and a place where you feel comfortable and safe. This could be at home, going outside or even over the phone if that feels easier.
Be honest and direct: It’s okay to start small. You might begin by saying, “I’ve been going through a tough time lately and I’d like to talk about it.” Being honest about your feelings can help the other person understand and support you better.
Use ‘I’ statements: Focus on expressing your own feelings and experiences. For example, “I’ve been feeling very anxious lately,” rather than “You make me feel anxious.” This can prevent the conversation from feeling confrontational.
Be prepared for different reactions: Remember that the person you’re talking to might not know exactly how to respond. They may need some time to process what you’ve said. Give them the space to listen and offer support in their own way.
How to help yourself
Talking about your mental health is an important step, but there are also other ways you can help yourself:
- Practise self-compassion: Be kind to yourself. Recognise that it’s okay to struggle and that seeking help is a sign of strength, not weakness.
- Stay connected: Keep in touch with friends and family, even if you don’t feel like talking about your mental health all the time. Social connections are vital for maintaining good mental health.
- Use creative outlets: Expressing your feelings through writing, art, music or even workouts can be a helpful way to process your emotions.
- Seek professional help: If you find it difficult to manage your mental health on your own, consider seeking help by going to your GP or from a counsellor or therapist. They can provide guidance, support, and coping strategies tailored to your needs.
How to support others in talking about their mental health
If someone opens up to you about their mental health, it’s important to respond with care and understanding:
Listen actively: Give them your full attention and listen without interruption. Show that you are engaged and that you care about what they are saying.
Avoid judgement: Refrain from making assumptions or offering unsolicited advice. Instead, focus on being supportive and empathetic.
Ask how you can help: Rather than guessing what they need, ask them directly how you can support them. This shows that you respect their autonomy and are there to help in a way that works for them.
Check-in regularly: After the initial conversation, continue to check in on them. This could be through a text, a phone call, or spending time together. Regular contact can provide ongoing support and show that you care.
Encourage professional help: If they haven’t already, encourage them to seek professional help. Offer to help them find resources or accompany them to appointments if they are comfortable. Listening to others can also take a toll on you, especially if you are a carer. If you need help, there’s no shame in getting professional help for yourself too.
Talking about your mental health is a powerful step towards improving your wellbeing. By breaking the silence and reaching out for support, you can start your journey towards healing and resilience.
support
Our Advice and Support Service is open Monday to Friday, 10am to 4pm (closed for lunch between 12.30pm and 1.30pm), where advisers can signpost you to local support that most fits your needs, including our Change Mental Health services. We offer initial advice on money worries and help to deal with emergencies.
Contact 0808 8010 515, email us at advice@changemh.org or fill out the enquiry form on the Advice and Support Service page.
Other support if you feel like talking about your mental health
There are resources available to help those experiencing distress:
See Me Scotland is a programme aimed at tackling mental health stigma and discrimination in Scotland. They offer resources and support for people discussing their mental health.
Breathing Space is a confidential helpline for people in Scotland feeling low, anxious or distressed. The service is open Monday to Thursday (6pm to 2am) and between 6pm on Friday and 6am on Monday. Call 0800 83 85 87.
NHS Inform Scotland offers a wide range of information on mental health services available in Scotland, including how to access support.
