relationships and mental health
relationships are fundamental to mental health and wellbeing, but they can also be a source of stress, anxiety and conflict
Our relationships – whether with family, friends, romantic partners or colleagues – play a vital role in shaping our mental health. Understanding how relationships influence our mental health and how we can nurture healthy connections is crucial for maintaining overall wellbeing.
Positive relationships provide us with emotional support, companionship and a sense of belonging, while challenging or toxic relationships can contribute to stress, anxiety and even depression. Navigating the dynamics of relationships, particularly during times of change or conflict, is important for mental wellbeing. When relationships are strained, it can lead to feelings of isolation, insecurity and emotional distress.
On the other hand, healthy relationships contribute significantly to mental health, offering opportunities for emotional expression, connection and growth. Developing the skills to cultivate supportive and respectful relationships can be transformative for both our emotional and physical health.
common myths about relationships and mental health
relationships should be easy and effortless
Healthy relationships require work, communication and compromise. The belief that they should always be easy can create unrealistic expectations and lead to frustration when issues arise.
toxic relationships are always obvious and easy to identify
Toxic relationships can be subtle and complex, sometimes evolving gradually or appearing positive on the surface. Recognising unhealthy patterns can take time, but it’s important to trust your instincts and seek support when needed.
a strong relationship means agreeing on everything
It’s natural for people in relationships to disagree, and differences can lead to growth and better understanding. The key is how conflicts are managed – healthy relationships thrive on mutual respect and communication.
the emotional impact of relationships
Strong, supportive relationships help buffer against mental health challenges by providing emotional security, validation and companionship. These relationships act as a source of comfort in times of stress and can encourage healthier habits, such as regular social interaction, exercise and seeking help when needed.
Toxic or abusive relationships, however, can erode self-esteem and foster negative emotions such as guilt, shame and anxiety. Over time, these relationships can affect physical and mental health, leading to increased stress and feelings of isolation. It’s essential to recognise the signs of toxic relationships and take steps to protect your mental wellbeing, whether that’s through setting boundaries, seeking professional support or walking away from the relationship entirely.
the role of communication in relationships
Communication is a cornerstone of any healthy relationship. Open, honest and respectful communication helps prevent misunderstandings, resolve conflicts and strengthen connections. Effective communication such as talking about your mental health can improve emotional intimacy, foster trust and allow both parties to feel heard and valued.
When communication breaks down, it can lead to feelings of frustration, resentment and disconnection. Poor communication can create distance and even fuel misunderstandings that lead to conflict. Practicing active listening, using “I” statements and creating space for each person’s perspective are essential tools for healthy communication.
coping with relationship challenges
All relationships go through ups and downs, but when challenges arise it’s important to approach them in a way that supports your mental health. Here are some strategies for managing relationship stress:
Set healthy boundaries
Boundaries are crucial for maintaining mental health within relationships. Setting limits on what is acceptable and what is not ensures that each person’s needs and feelings are respected. Boundaries protect both emotional and physical wellbeing and help prevent burnout in relationships.
Seek support when needed
If you’re facing challenges in your relationships that feel overwhelming, talking to a trusted friend, family member or therapist can provide support and perspective. Sometimes, professional guidance can help you navigate more complex relationship issues and offer strategies for healing or growth.
Practice self-care
Self-care is essential for maintaining your mental health while managing relationships. Prioritising your own wellbeing through activities that reduce stress and increase self-compassion can make it easier to approach relationship challenges with patience and understanding. Taking care of your mental and physical health creates a strong foundation for healthier relationships.
Manage expectations
Managing expectations in relationships is key to avoiding disappointment and frustration. Understand that no one is perfect and relationships require effort from both parties. Being realistic about your expectations and accepting imperfections can help prevent unnecessary stress.
Focus on personal growth
Strong relationships encourage personal growth, which can enhance relationships. Focusing on developing your own emotional intelligence, coping skills and resilience can help you navigate relationships more effectively and maintain your mental health.
how to help others in their relationships
Supporting someone through relationship challenges can make a big difference in their mental health. Here are some ways to help:
Be a good listener
Sometimes, the best way to support someone is simply by listening. Offer a safe space for them to express their feelings without judgement. Active listening can help them feel heard and validated.
Offer perspective
Gently helping someone see different viewpoints can encourage reflection and understanding in a relationship. Be empathetic but avoid giving unsolicited advice unless asked.
Encourage healthy communication
Encourage friends and loved ones to practice open, honest communication in their relationships. If they’re struggling with conflict, suggest strategies for managing disagreements calmly and respectfully.
Help set boundaries
Encourage others to set healthy boundaries in their relationships to protect their mental health. Offering support in this area can help them maintain a sense of control and safety.
support
Our Advice and Support Service is open Monday to Friday, 10am to 4pm closed for lunch between 12.30pm and 1.30pm), where advisers can signpost you to local support that most fits your needs, including our own Change Mental Health services. We offer initial advice on money worries and help to deal with emergencies.
Contact 0808 8010 515, email us at advice@changemh.org or fill out the enquiry form on the Advice and Support Service page.
