boundaries and mental health
learn how setting boundaries and just saying ‘no’ can help protect your mental health
Picture this: you’re going through life juggling the demands of work, loved ones and personal ambitions. Striving not to burden others, you find yourself constantly nodding ‘yes’ and taking on more challenges. Amid the chaos, stress creeps in. Your energy levels plummet.
Sound familiar? It does, because you probably have felt it before. You could even be the one in five people who feel like they are unable to balance life and work.
Maintaining mental health is crucial in navigating life’s challenges. One effective way to foster mental wellbeing is by setting boundaries, controlling the level of stress in your life. This guide will debunk common myths, explore the significance of boundaries and provide practical insights on setting them in various aspects of your life.
common myths about boundaries
setting boundaries
is selfish
Healthy boundaries are essential for self-care and maintaining overall wellbeing. They enable you to prioritise your mental health without compromising others.
boundaries create
distance in relationships
Clear boundaries enhance relationships by promoting understanding and respect. They create a foundation for healthier connections.
I don’t need boundaries, I can handle everything
Everyone needs boundaries. They serve as protective measures, preventing burnout and helping you live a balanced life.
what are boundaries?
Boundaries are like the rules that outline your limits, setting clear distinctions between your needs, emotions and personal space and those of others. Think of them as your invisible guideposts, helping you understand what behaviour is okay and what’s not. Boundaries provide a practical framework for navigating relationships and different situations confidently.
why do I need to set boundaries?
There are many reasons why you should set boundaries. Here are some few reasons why:
Preserving mental health
Setting boundaries is like putting on a mental health ‘armour’. Just as armour shields the body in the face of external threats, boundaries act as a protective layer for your mental wellbeing. It helps shield you from stress, depression and burnout allowing you to navigate life’s challenges with resilience.
Promoting self-respect
Boundaries serve as a direct reflection of your self-worth, constituting a declaration of your value in relationships and interactions. As you set boundaries, you send a message that emphasises the significance of respecting your needs and personal space. By setting these limits, you assert your right to be treated with consideration and dignity.
Balancing priorities
Establishing boundaries functions as a practical tool for effective time and energy management, aiding in the prioritisation of your tasks and commitments. Picture boundaries as a compass guiding you through your daily responsibilities. By clearly defining what is essential to you, these limits become a crucial mechanism for filtering and focusing your efforts.
Encouraging effective communication
Boundaries prevent misunderstandings and conflicts by setting expectations and helping others understand your needs and limits. Ultimately, they cultivate a culture of respect and understanding within relationships and communities in which you coexist.
how do I set boundaries…?
…at work?
Being upfront about your workload and deadlines is keeping everyone in the loop about what you can handle. Saying ‘no’ when you must be just being real about your limits. When it comes to tasks, think of it as cutting through the clutter: tackle the important stuff first, the things that make a difference. It’s like having a game plan for your day that helps you stay on track and avoid drowning in unnecessary stuff. You can read more about maintaining good mental health at the workplace here.
…at school?
Keep your academic and personal life from turning into a juggling act by making a study schedule and setting goals you can reach. Chat with your friends about what you expect from group projects and make sure everyone’s on the same page. And don’t forget to carve out your own study time without any distractions – that‘s your personal boundary. You can read more about maintaining good mental health at the school here.
…with my family?
Be straightforward about what you need and expect. Establishing routines for personal time and having an open conversation about boundaries can contribute to fostering a supportive family environment. By clearly communicating your preferences and understanding those of your family members, you’re creating a shared living space that respects individual needs and contributes to a more cohesive and positive atmosphere.
…in a relationship?
Keep the communication channels open by discussing your individual needs and expectations without any hidden agendas. Make sure to establish and respect each other’s personal space and time, creating a balance that works for both. It’s not a one-time deal; regularly check in and tweak those boundaries as your relationship grows and changes.
Remember, boundaries are not barriers; they are bridges to a healthier, more resilient you.
support
Our Advice and Support Service is open Monday to Friday, 10am to 4pm (closed for lunch between 12.30pm and 1.30pm), where advisers can signpost you to local support that most fits your needs, including our Change Mental Health services. We offer initial advice on money worries and help to deal with emergencies.
Contact 0808 8010 515, email us at advice@changemh.org or fill out the enquiry form on the Advice and Support Service page.
